Here’s a touchy subject that I had stopped thinking about completely in the last few years. I live in an apartment complex with other English speaking, educated couples, singles, and families. One would think that education makes a difference. But I realized just how wrong I was! On my way back from office today, I heard a couple fight in fluent English, at the top of their voices – there are in fact two such couples in the neighborhood, it may be an adjustment issue so I never got around to “ringing the doorbell
“. Till today. Today, it was more than just a loud argument. This was an English speaking, educated, big city girl getting beaten up by her English speaking, educated, big city husband. And I could not take it. I rang the doorbell. I had no idea what I would say or do if the door actually opened. It did not. The scream died down. And nothing stirred for the 5 minutes that I stood there waiting. And then I left. But I am sure it is not over.
This is not a one off thing. I remember a friend’s neighbour in Bombay who used to drag his wife to the corridor and beat her up. Nobody bothered about it. At the risk of sounding naive or errr.. elitist, I did think that domestic violence does not go beyond slums and maybe smaller towns. Because education and exposure are supposed to set things like these right, right?
I have a question. What DO you do if this happens in your neighborhood? Do you leave it for the couple to figure out? Or do you butt in at the risk of being asked not to interfere? What would you have done?
P.S. – R thinks I am emphasizing too much on the “English speaking” bit, but I am not sure how else I can explain why I am so shocked and disturbed by today’s incident.