I am not sure who the oddball here really is. I remember going to movies alone years ago. It used to surprise my friends and classmates. I understood that, I knew that was oddball-ish behaviour, just not in my books. But now I am in good company. I have hung out in groups and it has been just the two of us, and somehow the “two of us” has been a lot of fun. A lot more fun, if I may add.
When I was going to get married, there was only one thing I was looking for. Camaraderie. You can blame it on Kuch Kuch Hota Hai releasing during my most impressionable years – the whole deal about friendship and love, if you know what I mean. So I wanted to make sure that the man I married was a friend more than a care-giver or primary beer winner of the household. He did turn out all of that too, but that’s just my luck. If I don’t have the funnest time with R, what is the point getting married at all in the first place? You get to know a lot of people in life, you are friends with a whole lot of them, you keep in touch with hundreds others, thanks to FB. But don’t you marry the one who was the most compatible with you? That one person who is not your mirror image (because who is?), but makes for awesome company. So if you have fun on weekends and holidays spent exclusively with that person, it cannot possibly be weird, right? Correct me if I am wrong.
Are other people in relationships/ marriages always looking for big groups to hang out with? Is a couple holiday that is not a honeymoon, a strange thing? Don’t say anything, it’s not and I know it! I am not saying give up on everyone else and make your life exclusive to your spouse. My only point here is that it is not exactly strange to spend time with them and end up having a blast every time. It comes from the camaraderie you share, that level of comfort that you once shared with your best friend in college. Remember those times back in college, a friend and you, a bike, eating at random places, sitting at a random bus stops, talking nineteen to the dozen, and making fun of each other? It is somewhat like that, though now both of you return to the same house.
I am glad this works for me, but whatever rocks your boat!