Have you ever been unpleasantly surprised by an exchange of words between two people who you know don’t see eye to eye, but choose to do so behind each other’s backs? Have you ever felt suffocated by such a conversation? Do the “awwwwwws!” and “wows!” and “oh how lovely you look” put you off like nothing else?
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, they say. But some things, some people, nice as they might be, are not “hot”, or beautiful. Is it any short of an insult to call them beautiful/ gorgeous/ hot etc when you can just say they look nice/ smart or that you like their sense of humour/ style? Do they always have to revolve around appearances? Do compliments always have to be exaggerated? Does one always have to be saccharine sweet to estranged relatives and distant acquaintances?
Or is it just about scratching someone’s back, so they scratch yours some day?
Whatever happened to honest opinion? Or sincere compliments? Is it because we have spread ourselves too thin, and that when you see one million pictures of the same person (/people) a million times a year and are obliged to comment (compliment?), you begin to find words that don’t come to your head spontaneously? Is that what causes such exaggeration? Or such insincerity?
Isn’t it amazing how a language, any language, lets you express yourself, and yet lets you be so utterly, obviously insincere if you choose to?
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